Thursday, May 29, 2014


Quote by Lois Wyse
Print by grimmricksen

Back in the mid-1990's I was labeled a "feminazi." Sure, this was not a very difficult achievement, considering that I attended a university in Utah County -- Brigham Young University. At first I was confused about why I was being called this behind my back by all of my housemates and ward members: both boys and girls. I found out that it was because when a bunch of guys started door-to-dooring in the search of some "women who would make them cookies," I was the only one who said "No." Also, I was mocked for being very upset when I heard the voicemail of our 18-year-old male church leader. "Leave me a message or I will beat you up like the woman you are."

You might think that I am joking. 

That was literally his answering machine recording.

And everybody thought it was hilarious. (Or pretended to think it was hilarious.)

I was called a feminazi because of my pretty understandable outrage. And what's funniest to me now, is that I wasn't even that much of a feminist. I was still a teenager and pretty sold on "gender roles" and the goodness of patriarchy. Within the first few weeks of school, I felt like a pariah. It made me wonder if BYU was the right school for me. Spoiler alert: it was not the right school for me.

I hadn't really thought about any of this for a long time until I read a comment left on my friend's stellar article about Elliot Rodger in the Salt Lake City Weekly. Here's a bit of Stephanie Lauritzen's genius:

Despite the fact that a man who feels entitled to a woman’s body and finds feminism evil just shot six people in an act of premeditated murder, responders are already quick to condemn anyone who identifies his behavior as an example of our inherently misogynistic culture gone tragic. “Not all men!” is the default response, trying to portray Rodger as an anomaly instead of a byproduct of a culture that consistently blames women for the crimes perpetrated against their gender. We live in a world where it is acceptable to ask what a rape victim was wearing, or why they didn’t fight back against their attacker, and yet stand back in wonder when a man believes he has the right to slaughter the “sluts” who wouldn’t sleep with him. 

And here is what the commenter "truther" has to say.

Warning: this comment is very graphic and disturbing. I took a screenshot of it, rather than typing in the quote because I do not want it to go into a search engine.

I'm speechless. Okay, I'm not speechless, but the speeches I am using are not family restaurant friendly. 

Maybe we still need some feminism, YATHINK?

But what do I know. I'm just a feminazi.